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Finding Love in 2020

Big Bear helps men navigate the 2020 dating scene.



The Bird-of-paradise in Papua New Guinea has large feather plumages with no functional value other than attracting a mate. These birds have a near infinite year round supply of fruit to eat at any hour of the day, and no natural predators. Because of this, their large, useless, and calorie rich plumes signal to potential mates their genetic superiority. I wonder how long the plume rituals would last with a seasonal winter and a scarcity of fruit. How long would female potential mates choose the absurd and humiliating feather plumes over sharper talons and sharper eyes if the fruit stopped being a 24/7 all you can eat buffet. 

For a large part of the 20th and early 21st century western countries resembled the endless fruit supplies of the papua New Guinea rainforests, and the men started resembling the birds of paradise in their mating rituals. Work denim worn to protect against sharp horns and bitter cold, was replaced by obscenely priced thin designer denim that cost extra to have actual holes in them. The bedazzled patterns on the pockets let potential mates know that you have no useful skills and are willing to burn money for no reason.  Kays Jewelers sprang up in every mall so men could burn thousands of dollars on nonsense pebbles with no function or resale value. That was the point of it all. A twenty dollar martini let a date know that her potential bird-of-paradise had so much useless plumage he could afford to spend a days work wage of his grandfather’s generation on poison water with a fake cherry in it. A simple question mark embroidered on the pocket of jeans in the 1990s let everyone know that these jeans cost three times more than the exact same jeans without the question mark. This was seen as very attractive. 

Thankfully those days of conspicuous consumption came to an abrupt halt in 2020. Young people saw as their over priced bars, restaurants, and festivals that their social lives revolved around closed. As conventional job prospects shrunk and debt reached “constant panic attack” levels, women started getting that uneasy feeling that maybe “Netflix and chilling” with a stranger on their day off from their debt slave job may not be the best idea. 

The good news is, the plumage dance of the over stuffed degenerates the west has been participating in was destroying everything good about dating. Embrace the change. Many men in lower income categories with a lower (perceived) social statues now have many more attractive qualities than the terrified hedge fund managers just now realizing they don’t know where food comes from and have never talked to a sober woman before. The question mark on their jeans that had signaled others their status, now resembles a very confusing future.  If you’ve seen this coming for a while and now realize how much more valuable your skills are, it’s important to avoid the urge to read her “The Industrial Revolution and it’s Consequences” on your first date after cleaning a rabbit all while reminding her you’ve been warning people for years this was coming.

Just because the Babylonian debt economy dating machine has been halted doesn’t mean women don’t still like nice times and beautiful things. We are just entering an era where those things don’t require large gobs of unearned debt money. 

The older I get the more I realize the old ways were right and didn’t need any “modernizing.” The best method for dating is to go to your community leader and let them know you are ready to get married. The leader will consult with your parents and the parents of others looking to get married. Then the prospective couple will meet at each one’s family home where they will be able to learn about each other and more importantly each others family. Only when they both agree to get married does the wedding take place. No sex, no touching, just bonding families and functional communities.  Unfortunately most young singles these days don’t have responsible community leaders or stable family units to do it the right way. For over half a century community leaders have been Hollywood “stars” telling everyone procreation for people and barn animals should be similar. Except of course the people should first consume drugs and alcohol. 

So, what are some great dates for 2020? Remember the plumes of bedazzles pants on male designer jeans have been replaced with a desire for good moral healthy living. So how do you show off these new desirable qualities to a potential mate?

1. Home made dinners with as many ingredients from your garden as possible. Keep it simple, but blow her mind with what actual food tastes like. Women love beauty and class, and most have never experience the fairytale of a home grown meal. After the experience she will never again want low sustenance restaurant food surrounded by sodomites talking loudly about nonsense. 

2. Take her fishing, build a fire, pick berries, and cook her the fish for dinner as the sun sets. This requires high confidence in your fishing and fire skills or it could end with just berries for dinner. But if you can pull off fish you caught with her, it would be legendary. 

3. Go to a botanical garden and pick out a plant to plant together. This is just a very cool thing to do with someone and it’s much lower pressure than catching a fish. She will love it. 

4. Hiking is a great date, but remember women don’t want to be in forest alone with a man they don’t know that well. I’d save the hikes til there’s a lot more comfort between you, but it’s always a good time and nature never closes. 

5. Gold panning and Gem hunting would be a fun date assuming the weather is good. It also sets the tone for a future ring that you make yourself.

6. Forage for mushrooms. Assuming you know what you’re doing, this is a great activity to get to know each other better while you focus on something fun and tasty.

Remind her that the world is still beautiful. Show her that past. Run away from under the banner “progress”, there is a much better world than the synthetic parade of parasites the dating apps are so proud of. 

These days I keep hearing people yearn for the world to “go back to normal.” The fact is, that “normal” was turning eagles into peacocks. It was turning your future wives into just another face in the digital sea of the abandoned. We have a great opportunity to relearn what it means to love someone, and the endless wealth of family. 


A Recipe from the Kitchen of Big Sage Bear

It turns out sourdough starter discard makes for a delicious tempura-style batter! Crispy outside, not heavy or too greasy, just wonderful.



Sourdough Starter Tempura Style Zucchini Sticks & “Ranch” Dip

Hungry for some junk food but want to skip the “junk” part? Are you looking for another way to use the discard from that sourdough starter you’ve been cultivating? Or do you just plain have WAY too much zucchini? ‘Tis the season, I know! Well, you’re in for a treat! Sourdough starter tempura-style zucchini sticks and “ranch” dip made from pureed zucchini. I got you!

It turns out sourdough starter discard makes for a delicious tempura-style batter! Crispy outside, not heavy or too greasy, just wonderful. Just add the following to your discard to make the batter: a little bit of baking soda to get a bit of fizz and a generous pinch of salt for taste—Preheat a deep-sided pot with a couple of inches of frying fat or oil up to 360 degrees. As for what fat to use, Lard, as ya’ll know, is, of course, my pick! Use a deep fry or candy thermometer clipped to the side of your pot to monitor your fat’s temperature and avoid burning or smoking. Coat your zucchini sticks in the batter, then gently drop the pieces into your pot, turning a time or two if needed. Take them out when you see that gorgeous golden brown, which should only take a couple of minutes.

For the dip, I improvised a tad. I read that pureed zucchini could be used instead of dairy in baked goods. So, I wondered if I could turn it into a mock “ranch” dip in the same way. That’s a big ‘ole YES! 

I added the following to a medium-ish pureed zucchini (I left the skin on hence the greenish tint, but you could peel if you wanted): Buttermilk powder, lemon juice, salt, garlic, parsley. Tasting and adding more as I went if needed. Dill would be another great option, and I didn’t have any at that moment. It definitely did the finger-licking trick as a stand-in “ranch” dip, and now I’m thinking I can make any number of creamy dipping sauces with pureed zucchini and the right spices..we shall see! There’s always room for experimentation in the kitchen, and I do love it when a good “use what ya got” recipe turns out! 


– Big Sage Bear

BTA: @amelia.ameliorate

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From the Bookshelf of Mr. Permie Bear…

Each of these books has brought information of perspective that continues to bring us value on our farm and homestead.



This is a sampling of what I consider some of the most valuable books on my shelf. Each of these books has brought information of perspective that continues to bring us value on our farm and homestead. The only order I have given them is to separate the more advanced books so that people just beginning their adventure don’t unknowingly spend much money on something they will have a hard time applying.

Basic List:

Title and AuthorWhy I like it
Gaia’s Garden by Toby HemenwayClassic, home-scale permaculture book. It helps give you a simplified guide to the permaculture design process and principles while giving you actionable steps. It has several reference tables for later when you are getting busy.
Carrots Love Tomatoes by Louise RiotteA great all-around guide to companion planting to help you find plants that work well together and avoid ones that don’t. 
The Family Cow by Dirk van LoonMany consider this the definitive first book and resource on your journey to dairy cow bliss. It doesn’t cover every possible thing that can come up, but you will get your feet under you to have success with your cow. 
The River Cottage Curing & Smoking Handbook by Steven LambOk, I haven’t read this cover to cover yet, but we did refer to it when making prosciutto, and this book comes highly recommended by Brandon Sheard of Farmstead Meatsmith, and I trust his opinion. 
The Art of Natural Cheesemaking by David AsherOur favorite cheesemaking book because it focuses on what you can do with natural ingredients and processes that our ancestors would have had. I have yet to see a recipe needing the thermophilic culture. Instead, you will find your supplies to include things like kefir, whey, or lemon juice. 
Duck, Duck, Goose by Hank ShawI think most homesteads need ducks. But what do you do when you have too many males, and they go to freezer camp? This book came highly recommended to us when we decided we could take or leave duck meat. Friends don’t let friends eat mediocre duck recipes.
Polyface Designs by Joel Salatin and Chris Slattery I couldn’t decide whether this was advanced or not; after all, this isn’t a cheap book. After thinking about it, I think it belongs on the basic list to help you avoid some design errors when putting your infrastructure together. These are not the only designs that work; this is a solid place to start for all kinds of things. There’s always room to innovate, though, should you be so inclined.
Living with Pigs by Chuck WoosterDefinitely not the most in-depth book on pig keeping, and there are things I wish the author talked about that he did not, but we successfully raised pigs our first time after reading this book. It’s an enjoyable read, too, not a textbook.
You Can Farm by Joel SalatinWhether you intend to farm for profit or not, Joel lays out many principles that apply to running a good farm. If you ever plan to sell a product, I highly recommend this. If you don’t know, he is one of the most successful smallish farmers.
Pastured Poultry Profits by Joel SalatinThis book is specific to raising meat birds for sale and includes chickens. Pretty dang close to everything you need to know to be successful on just about any scale any of us are likely to do.
Salad Bar Beef by Joel SalatinThis is all about… you guessed it, running a 5-acre orchard! Just kidding. Obviously, about beef. He introduces you to the world of managed intensive grazing, low-input farming, and all kinds of good stuff.
No Risk Ranching by Greg JudyAnother great resource concerning rotational grazing and pasture management, Greg has quite the track record going from losing the family farm to owning many and leasing thousands of acres without owning the cows. He goes into detail on his business model. I have not done that part, but he has solid advice for pasture management. He also has fantastically hilarious and inspiring stories.
Come Back Farms by Greg JudyIn the follow-up to No Risk Ranching, Greg goes into more detail and tries to cover things he either didn’t know at the time or didn’t explain very well. Please don’t get this one without the first one; its value will be limited without foundation.
The Winter Harvest Handbook by Eliot ColemanMy favorite gardening author. This one focuses specifically on low-input techniques to maximize your growing season by harvesting all winter long. He is in Maine. If he can do it, it’s possible almost anywhere.
Four Season Harvest by Eliot ColemanGreat for the small farmer and home gardener alike. Eliot lays out the foundation for year-round growth. He’s all about low input and is one of the pioneers here in America when it comes to that. Did I mention he is my favorite garden author?
The Complete Guide to Saving Seeds by Robert Gough and Cheryl Moore-GoughA solid book on saving seeds. It includes all kinds of veggies, herbs, flowers, trees, etc. Not absolutely everything I want to know, but I am a data nerd, and this is a pretty solid resource all around.
The Small-Scale Poultry Flock by Harvey UsseryHarvey is a chicken legend. This book will give you everything you could hope for regarding chickens (primarily laying hens, but he does talk meat, too)—my favorite chicken book.
Grow Fruit by Alan BuckinghamI bought this at Lowe’s on a whim. Glad that I did! It gives you a solid foundation on every fruit you could imagine and includes pruning time and how-to, recommended varieties, and what can go wrong. 
Living with Sheep by Chuck WoosterChuck is at it again, this time with sheep. As with pigs, not an absolutely comprehensive guide that will tell you every possible thing you need to know, but you probably won’t kill your first sheep either (at least on accident, he does talk about butchering). It definitely gets you going in the right direction as a newbie. Couple this with Greg Judy’s info on multispecies grazing, and now you’ve got something!
The Resilient Farm and Homestead by Ben FalkBen is awesome. This book is another intro to permaculture-type book that takes you through the basic design process, but Ben has a really unique perspective on things that I appreciate. He might be wrong on the climate change thing, but his points as to what to do in general are spot on. The man grows his own rice in Vermont. How can you not want to read it?
Sepp Holzer’s Permaculture by Sepp HolzerClassic intro to permaculture book. Sepp practiced permaculture before he knew what it was and possibly before it had even been defined. He grows fruit at elevations they told him were impossible—an excellent read for any homesteader, especially those with steep land and challenging conditions.
The Self Sufficient Life and How to Live it by John SeymourThis was the first all-around homesteading book I got, and still my favorite. John covers just about every subject you can imagine, from growing vegetables to metalworking. Are you going to be proficient at everything he discusses by reading this? No. But you will have a basic knowledge that will help you get started and quickly learn more as you discover what you are interested in pursuing. He even gives ideas on how he would lay out an urban garden, a 1-acre, and a 5-acre homestead.

Advanced list:

Title and AuthorWhy I like it
Permaculture: A Designers’ Manual by Bill MollisonThis is the book. The most in-depth permaculture design book that I am aware of. This book is the foundation of nearly every course one could take to become a permaculture designer. This is a textbook that reads like one most of the time. The depth and breadth of information in this book about every aspect of human needs is staggering. 
The New Organic Grower by Eliot ColemanLook! He made the advanced list too! I almost put this on the basic list but decided on advanced because it is primarily geared toward those who want to grow vegetables as their source of income. However, so much of it is still applicable to home gardeners as well.
Edible Forest Gardens by Dave Jacke with Eric ToensmeierSo you want a forest garden? Do you want a 2 volume set that will give you way more information than you could ever possibly remember? Are you a data nerd wanting to know what root pattern just about any tree has, its growth habit, and its attributes that may be of use? Then this book is for you! It goes over the design theory in volume 1. Volume 2 is the process and a terrific resource with tons and tons of charts. This would be my go-to resource if you wanted to design a really well-put-together forest garden or especially if you wanted/needed to design one professionally.
Regenerative Soil by Matt PowersThis book blows my soil nerd mind. Just about every nutrient cycle you can imagine is explained. About every physical, chemical, or biological soil attribute you could be curious about. After reading this book, you’d be well on your way to being an expert in soil. The best part is the nearly 100 pages of solutions. How to address all kinds of problems, make your own inoculants and fertilizers, and more. Matt Powers has a gift for assembling vast amounts of information and making it understandable and actionable. Highly recommend it if you want to take your soil to the next level.
The Forest Garden Greenhouse by Jerome OsentowskiJerome has a tropical greenhouse at 7800’ in the Rockies of Colorado and only has to heat it 18 days a year. What’s your excuse? Got some money and want to go greenhouse crazy? Incredible resource and very inspirational. So many possibilities. 
Restoration Agriculture by Mark ShepardThis is in the advanced list, not because it’s a difficult read or full of complex concepts, but because it is precisely for farm-scale permaculture with a heavy emphasis on tree crops like chestnuts. Great read. You know you want to find out what cat and robin pruning is, don’t you?
War and Peace by Leo TolstoyBecause I am going to read it one day and you probably should too, if not only to say that you did because you are a legend.

– Mr. Permie Bear

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How Do I Navigate The Waters of Beartaria Times As A Single?

After receiving feedback from other app users, I’ve devised a list of helpful tips for singles on the Beartaria Times App (BTA).



7 Tips for Singles Navigating the Beartaria Times App.

By Abigail McKinney/ QoE

First, you should know that you’re not alone. After receiving feedback from other app users, I’ve devised a list of helpful tips for singles on the Beartaria Times App (BTA). We hope you make the most of this and other articles in the name of overcoming and planting seeds.

1. Always Connect or Follow

See someone who strikes your fancy or at least has you intrigued? If you don’t follow or request to connect with them (i.e., friend request), you may never see that person again. Each Group thread features a limited number of the most current posts. That means that if you go back two days later, scrolling through to find that one post, it may have already disappeared from that group’s feed. That post now exists only on that person’s profile. Then what? Will you remember their username or perhaps a hashtag they used? Maybe, but you don’t want to chance it. 

2. Use Hashtags 

Hashtags are the best way for someone to find you based on the gist of a post you’ve made. So maybe they don’t remember your bear name or user name, but they might just remember that post about knives, books, or a particular dish you made. You can use a general or specific hashtag, like #baking or #chickenpotpie, or even #singles. You’ve now significantly increased the chances that your admirer will find you.

3. Be Active / Make Posts

Being active is the next best way for people to find you. There are TONS of great catches here on the BTA, but no one will know you exist if you’re not posting. And, even if you burn up the comments and like up a storm—but you’re not posting—you are missing the opportunity to present yourself with context.  

4. Join the Singles Group and Scroll through the Member List

Every location and category group shows a member list. That means that you can scroll through membership lists to peruse profile photos. You should join the Singles Group to appear on that group’s member list. 

5. Post in Different Threads

Sometimes the Singles Group can be daunting; it’s where our expectations, hopes, and past pain come into play. But, there’s too much good in this beartarian community to let past failures or fear of rejection stop you from shining your light. Not feeling quite ready to “put yourself out there?” Stay active in other categories and location groups. But you need to ensure that people know that you are, in fact, single.

6. List Yourself as Single, and Be Sure You Have A Picture of Your Face

When that future Mr. or Mrs. Bear makes it over to your page, after checking out your #gardening post, make sure that you’ve listed yourself as single on your profile and have at least one post with a picture of your face. Let’s face it; your face is the persona of your being. You can discover in seconds whether or not you are attracted to someone by viewing their face. (This is why contact goes up exponentially.) When that special someone scrolls your page, they will be delighted to find this combo: single + your face. 


8. Use the Block Function If Someone Is Bothering You

The BTA crew is busy at work, crushing. They’ve given you your personal ban hammer to help you avoid being harassed by gammas and such. If someone is bothering you, block them! Don’t just abandon ship. We want to keep the good energy flowing and overcome obstacles to building our community.

7. Be Positive & Open

The things that you came to Beartaria Times for are here! Have faith. You are exactly where you need to be. Trust your instincts. Be open enough to get to know people, and if there’s no real compatibility or chemistry, let it go without placing blame. Do your best to communicate your thoughts and needs openly. Then, you won’t have to wonder when it is right—it will be clear.    

We’re called to be fruitful and multiply. You can plant seeds through these eight actions, which express your cooperation with the process. Allow patience for yourself and others. Water your steps with care and consideration. Till out unnecessary expectations and worries. And watch your life bloom with family and in the community.  

God sets the lonely in families. He brings out those who are bound with singing, but the rebellious dwell in a sun-scorched land. – Psalm 68:6

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